how to love your self

How to Love Yourself – 17 tips to fall in love with yourself

How to love yourself. Now this is a paradoxical sentence, considering the fact that everyone loves themselves, or do they? Yes, you may be surprised that not everyone knows how to love themselves. They may be able to shower love to everyone around them, but forget to leave some love for themselves.

It’s in fact important to love yourself, and build a good relationship with yourself. This is what gives you the self-confidence and self worth need to progress in life, and to feel more positive in whatever you do.

You will also end up a much happier person, and start taking better care of yourself. It’s only when you love yourself that you stop comparing yourself with others because you feel confident and aren’t worried about what other say or think about you.

Do you now want to know how to love yourself? If yes, read on and try these 17 tips!

1. Spend a day with yourself

It’s only when you love yourself that you know how to keep yourself busy and happy at the same time. It also makes you grow more confident. You don’t have to do much. Going to the movie or trying out something new is more than enough.

2. Forgive yourself

Learning to look back at your mistakes and forgiving yourself for it is a huge step in loving yourself. This is the only way you can move on, instead of repeatedly repenting or thinking about whatever mistake you had done before.

3. Even you like surprises

Learn to surprise yourself by doing things you never thought you’d do like going bungee jumping, driving a car or even cooking. Not only does this help you get to know yourself better, you may in fact enjoy yourself doing these things!

4. Maintain a journal

It’s worth writing down all your feelings and thoughts so that you can revert to it for help at tackling certain situations. It also helps you forget negative experiences so that you end up focusing only on the good things in life, and forgetting the bad.

5. Take a break

Sometimes you need to give yourself a break because some things are just not in your control. You have to accept them for what they are, and not be too hard on yourself.

6. Go on a trip alone

If you’ve never done this, it’s time you did! Yes, go travelling alone to build yourself confidence in doing things on your own. Besides, you also get to learn new things about the people and place.

7. Learn to say ‘No’

One of the main reasons we tend to forget to love ourselves is because we do too much for others. You end up reaching your limits and are too tired to even think of yourself! So learning to say no is an integral part in loving yourself.

8. Remind yourself of your accomplishments

The moment you list out all your past accomplishments you tend to feel good about yourself. You sometimes need to do this, especially if you are feeling helpless and useless. Reminding yourself of your past accomplishments reminds you of what you can do, and how efficient and productive a person you are.

9. Kill your berating inner voice

If you are one of those who has a pestering inner voice berating you all the time, making you feel useless and useless then it’s time you got rid of it and all the unnecessary self criticism.

10. You are praiseworthy

Don’t just praise the people around you. You also deserve an occasional pat on the back and some words of kindness. Once you start speaking kindly and positively about yourself you automatically start feeling a sense of positivity and empowerment.

11. Forget your worries

Constantly worrying will in no way help you love yourself. Learn to let go of all your worries. Nothing productive happens with the worrying, you only end up tired and belittled. Instead, spend time thinking what you can do, and make sure you work to make things happen.

12. Have trust in you

You have to trust yourself in your actions and words. Be confident about what you can do. It’s the trust in you that helps you visualize positive and desired outcomes through your actions.

13. Relax

You need to relax every now and then. The best way to do this is with some me-time. Just do something you enjoy like listening to music or reading a book and you’ll love yourself for doing it!

14. Take care of your body

Your body is a one-time investment. You cannot and will not get a replacement, which is why you need to love yourself and take good care of it. This means you need to follow a healthy diet and regular exercise. Most of the time the lack of care and love is what leads to problems like obesity, eating disorders and even terminal diseases like cancer.

15. No lying to yourself

Learn to be truthful to yourself by acknowledging the joy and sadness you experience. This is how you can avoid burying yourself in negativity which arises when you lie about how you are feeling. It also serves as a guide to help you know what you really want, and how you can love yourself.

16. Learn something new

Challenging yourself by learning something new goes a long way at helping you love yourself.  You realize you can do something you’ve never done before, and naturally start loving yourself for it. It can be anything. Not necessarily something new.

If you have always loved dancing, why not try competing at a dance contest? Or if you are a bathroom singer, try singing at a gig. You’ll be surprised, and love yourself for whatever you do!

15. Just fall in love with yourself

Last, but not least, you just have to fall in love with yourself. You need to realize what makes you the person you are, and start appreciating and understanding yourself.

Just like plants and animals need love and nurturing, you also need love to grow well. Learn to accept your flaws while loving yourself for all the good in you.

Mradula Shet

Mradula Shet

Mradula Shet is an avid and experienced freelance writer, and a housewife by profession. It's the combination of passion, life experiences and thirst for knowledge which brought out the writer in her.

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